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吵架后的说说(篇一)
《朋友吵架后的说说》
吵架后的说说(篇二)
《90后伤感QQ说说：男人通常不喜欢吵架》
吵架后的说说(篇三)
《个性爱情心情说说：和女朋友吵架吵赢的最后都单身了》
吵架后的说说(篇四)
《夫妻吵架时千万别说的话》
夫妻吵架时千万别说的话
当男人和女人步入婚姻后，就开始婚姻生活了，婚姻是一门值得男女去学习的一个课程，在婚姻中可以学到很多的东西，但是无论怎么样，男人都不能对妻子说这些话。
1.吵架时说我爱你
不少男人会将“我爱你”当作道歉、平息对方怒火的救命稻草，比如忘了结婚纪念日、在某个重要的日子爽约。在这种情况下，这句话无法挽回妻子的心，只能让她心生厌恶。因此，男性应该详细解释哪儿出了问题，然后保证下不为例，最后才是郑重、诚恳地说“我爱你”。
2.放松些
女性在大喊大叫、怒火中烧或惊慌失措时，会习惯性地认为自己的反应百分百正确。此时对她说冷静、放松一些，就等于说她不可理喻。正确的说法是：“让我和你一起想办法处理，好吗？”这样她会感到你完全的支持，有依靠的感觉会让她放心。
3.随便你吧
生活处处充满决定，如到哪里吃饭，让孩子上哪个学校，买多大的房子。有些男人会用懒散的语气说“随你”、“你做主”。在他们看来，拿主意是费力不讨好的事情；而在女人眼中，每个选择都有其优越性。丈夫的一句“随便”，会让她们感到无助，如同被抛弃了。因此，男性不妨说：“我觉得A和B都可以，咱们投硬币决定？”
4.一言不发
有些男性会想：“只要我闭上嘴不说话，就万事大吉了。”然而，设想一下，你在打乒乓球时既没有对手、也没有接球员，一个人不得不在发球之后，自己去捡回来，那种感觉如何？当男性一言不发、三缄其口时，妻子的感觉就是这样。
5.结婚时，我就这样
结婚时，女性对另一半和未来生活充满幻想，对爱人的缺点视而不见。若告诉她“我们结婚时，我就是这样”，这等于在说你不会为婚姻做任何改变。这会让女性对婚姻关系凉透了心。建议男性说个无伤大雅的小谎，如“我也对此不满意，而且我正在想办法解决。”
长期的小压力会悄无声息地加重我们的心理负荷，进而引起心脑血管、消化系统和免疫系统等一系列疾病的发生。这其实如同温水煮青蛙一样，水温的增加是不易觉察的，青蛙会麻痹在温水中不知道逃离，甚至还会自由地游荡，但在时间累积到一定程度之后，青蛙就会丧命在“温柔乡”里。
现如今，每个人学会自我调整是非常重要的。我们要学会觉察：自己问自己，为什么近来睡不着？什么事让我心烦？为什么我担心这件事做不好？我们要学会追究造成压力的原因，并且要尽快地应对。
当你感受到压力存在时，给自己3分钟的时间，将两眼轻轻地闭上，将注意力完全集中在自己的呼吸上，配合吐气比吸气长的腹式呼吸。此外，适量的运动、充足的睡眠、合理的膳食、冷热水交替沐浴等方法也能为我们减缓压力。
如果您觉得压力持续1个月后依旧如影随形，那么显然这个压力可能已经超越我们能适应和承受的范围，应该尽快求助于专业的心理咨询人员进行指导。
吵架后的说说(篇五)
《与爱人吵架时不该说的话》
与爱人吵架时不该说的话
Don't say: "You always" or "You never" or "You're a [slob, jerk]" or "You're wrong."
Why: Speaking in absolutes like "you always" and "you're wrong" is playing the blame game, and resorting to name calling makes your partner feel helpless, which puts him on the defensive and makes a bad fight worse. Instead say: "I'm upset that you left the dishes in the sink again. What can we do so that this stops happening?" Starting with the pronoun I puts the focus on how you feel, not why he's in the doghouse, and it will make him more receptive to fixing the problem.
不要说"You always"（你总是）、"You never"（你从不）、"You're a [slob, jerk]"（你是个笨蛋）或者"You're wrong."（你错了）。用"you always"、"you're wrong"这样绝对的说话方式无疑是在玩指责游戏，而谩骂中伤更会让你的伴侣感到无力，这只会迫使他为自己进行辩护，让争吵向更坏的情势发展。我们可以说"I'm upset that you left the dishes in the sink again. What can we do so that this stops happening?"（你又把盘碟留在水槽里让我感到心烦，我们可以做些什么来杜绝这事吗？）用“我”来开头以强调你的感受，而不是为什么他要被骂得很惨，这样会让他更容易接受，进而去解决问题。
* to be in the doghouse字面上看就是把一个人放进狗窝，而实际的意思就是失宠或遭受困难。老外是很爱狗的，通常把狗养在家里与孩子一起，当做家庭一分子。如果父母对狗不好，就把狗赶到外面的犬舍（doghouse）里，不准再进家里。所以这个习语后来有一种处分或冷落的意味。
Don't say: "If you really loved me, you would..."
Why: The more you treat your partner as if he'll never satisfy you, the less satisfied you'll be. Controlling your partner by imploring him to do something isn't a good way to build intimacy.
Instead say: "I feel taken for granted when you don't help around the house. I would feel better if we could„" The best way to keep a productive fight from becoming a dirty one is to be clear about why you're upset and then offer a solution.
不要说"If you really loved me, you would..."（如果你真的爱我，你应该„„）你越是用那种好像他从来无法满足你的态度对待伴侣，你越是不会感到满意。通过恳求他做某事来控制伴侣不是建立亲密关系的好方法。我们可以说"I feel taken for granted when you don't help around the house. I would feel better if we could„"（当你不帮忙做家务时，我有种事情就该我做的感觉，如果我们能„„我会感觉好受些）要避免一场能产生效果的争吵朝一场满口脏话的争吵发展，最好办法就是说清楚你为何不满，然后提出解决方案。
吵架后的说说(篇六)
《与爱人吵架时不该说的话》
与爱人吵架时不该说的话
Don't say: "You always" or "You never" or "You're a [slob, jerk]" or "You're wrong."
Why: Speaking in absolutes like "you always" and "you're wrong" is playing the blame game, and resorting to name calling makes your partner feel helpless, which puts him on the defensive and makes a bad fight worse. Instead say: "I'm upset that you left the dishes in the sink again. What can we do so that this stops happening?" Starting with the pronoun I puts the focus on how you feel, not why he's in the doghouse, and it will make him more receptive to fixing the problem.
不要说"You always"（你总是）、"You never"（你从不）、"You're a [slob, jerk]"（你是个笨蛋）或者"You're wrong."（你错了）。用"you always"、"you're wrong"这样绝对的说话方式无疑是在玩指责游戏，而谩骂中伤更会让你的伴侣感到无力，这只会迫使他为自己进行辩护，让争吵向更坏的情势发展。我们可以说"I'm upset that you left the dishes in the sink again. What can we do so that this stops happening?"（你又把盘碟留在水槽里让我感到心烦，我们可以做些什么来杜绝这事吗？）用“我”来开头以强调你的感受，而不是为什么他要被骂得很惨，这样会让他更容易接受，进而去解决问题。
* to be in the doghouse字面上看就是把一个人放进狗窝，而实际的意思就是失宠或遭受困难。老外是很爱狗的，通常把狗养在家里与孩子一起，当做家庭一分子。如果父母对狗不好，就把狗赶到外面的犬舍（doghouse）里，不准再进家里。所以这个习语后来有一种处分或冷落的意味。
Don't say: "If you really loved me, you would..."
Why: The more you treat your partner as if he'll never satisfy you, the less satisfied you'll be. Controlling your partner by imploring him to do something isn't a good way to build intimacy.
Instead say: "I feel taken for granted when you don't help around the house. I would feel better if we could„" The best way to keep a productive fight from becoming a dirty one is to be clear about why you're upset and then offer a solution.
不要说"If you really loved me, you would..."（如果你真的爱我，你应该„„）你越是用那种好像他从来无法满足你的态度对待伴侣，你越是不会感到满意。通过恳求他做某事来控制伴侣不是建立亲密关系的好方法。我们可以说"I feel taken for granted when you don't help around the house. I would feel better if we could„"（当你不帮忙做家务时，我有种事情就该我做的感觉，如果我们能„„我会感觉好受些）要避免一场能产生效果的争吵朝一场满口脏话的争吵发展，最好办法就是说清楚你为何不满，然后提出解决方案。
吵架后的说说(篇七)
《与爱人吵架时不该说的话》
与爱人吵架时不该说的话
Don't say: "You always" or "You never" or "You're a [slob, jerk]" or "You're wrong."
Why: Speaking in absolutes like "you always" and "you're wrong" is playing the blame game, and resorting to name calling makes your partner feel helpless, which puts him on the defensive and makes a bad fight worse. Instead say: "I'm upset that you left the dishes in the sink again. What can we do so that this stops happening?" Starting with the pronoun I puts the focus on how you feel, not why he's in the doghouse, and it will make him more receptive to fixing the problem.
不要说"You always"（你总是）、"You never"（你从不）、"You're a [slob, jerk]"（你是个笨蛋）或者"You're wrong."（你错了）。用"you always"、"you're wrong"这样绝对的说话方式无疑是在玩指责游戏，而谩骂中伤更会让你的伴侣感到无力，这只会迫使他为自己进行辩护，让争吵向更坏的情势发展。我们可以说"I'm upset that you left the dishes in the sink again. What can we do so that this stops happening?"（你又把盘碟留在水槽里让我感到心烦，我们可以做些什么来杜绝这事吗？）用“我”来开头以强调你的感受，而不是为什么他要被骂得很惨，这样会让他更容易接受，进而去解决问题。
* to be in the doghouse字面上看就是把一个人放进狗窝，而实际的意思就是失宠或遭受困难。老外是很爱狗的，通常把狗养在家里与孩子一起，当做家庭一分子。如果父母对狗不好，就把狗赶到外面的犬舍（doghouse）里，不准再进家里。所以这个习语后来有一种处分或冷落的意味。
Don't say: "If you really loved me, you would..."
Why: The more you treat your partner as if he'll never satisfy you, the less satisfied you'll be. Controlling your partner by imploring him to do something isn't a good way to build intimacy.
Instead say: "I feel taken for granted when you don't help around the house. I would feel better if we could„" The best way to keep a productive fight from becoming a dirty one is to be clear about why you're upset and then offer a solution.
不要说"If you really loved me, you would..."（如果你真的爱我，你应该„„）你越是用那种好像他从来无法满足你的态度对待伴侣，你越是不会感到满意。通过恳求他做某事来控制伴侣不是建立亲密关系的好方法。我们可以说"I feel taken for granted when you don't help around the house. I would feel better if we could„"（当你不帮忙做家务时，我有种事情就该我做的感觉，如果我们能„„我会感觉好受些）要避免一场能产生效果的争吵朝一场满口脏话的争吵发展，最好办法就是说清楚你为何不满，然后提出解决方案。
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